Edward F. Edinger: And often the coercion occurs under the guise of virtue, love, or altruism.
In my experience, the basis of almost all psychological problems is an unsatisfactory relation to one’s urge to individuality.
And the healing process often involves an acceptance of what is commonly called selfish, power-seeking or autoerotic.
The majority of patients in psychotherapy need to learn how to be more effectively selfish and more effective in the use of their own personal power; they need to accept responsibility for the fact of being centers of power and effectiveness.
So-called selfish or egocentric behavior which expresses itself in demands made on others is not effective conscious self-centeredness or conscious individuality.
We demand from others only what we fail to give ourselves.
If we have insufficient self-love or self-prestige, our need expresses itself unconsciously by coercive tactics toward others.
And often the coercion occurs under the guise of virtue, love, or altruism.
Such unconscious selfishness is ineffectual and destructive to oneself and others.
It fails to achieve its purpose because it is blind, without awareness of itself.
What is required is not the extirpation of selfishness, which is impossible but rather that it be wedded to consciousness and thus becomes effective.
All the facts of biology and psychology teach us that every individual unit of life is self-centered to the core.
The only varying factor is the degree of consciousness which accompanies that fact. ~Edward F. Edinger, Ego and Archetype, Page 161
