Carl Jung What the other has done to us, we’ll then do ourselves later.
Children’s Dreams (Philemon Foundation Series)
Professor Jung:
Yes, of course.
It then turns out that such an attachment is extremely inexpedient, because he will be insufficiently prepared for facing the exigencies of the outer world.
If such a child is intelligent, he may cope with all the intellectual exigencies in school, but still won’t achieve anything; he does not have the independence of personality.
He is totally undermined by the mother.
In the case of the doctor, the mother demanded that he tell her all about the analysis.
He wrote down every word for the mother, so she always had him in her grip.
Then I said: “This has to stop.”
And of course this was the straw that broke the camel’s back.
Fortunately, she didn’t die.
One gets so furious with such parents!
Participant: Even if she dies, she will still be living.
It’s completely useless.
The mother will still always be there.
Professor Jung:
Yes, dying is completely useless.
As the mother of God, she will always crouch there and brood over the child.
He will never get out. It’s the same, of course, with the fathers.
We must by no means think that it would end with death.
What the other has done to us, we’ll then do ourselves later.
Everything remains in the same place, and one lives exactly as before.
Many a bachelor is sitting in his apartment and nurses the Manes of his parents, and is as constricted and inhibited as ever.~Carl Jung, Children’s Dreams Seminar, Pages 438-440.
Note: Manes = Latin, the spirits of the deceased in ancient Rome.
In other words: worry about yourself more than about others
The dream of X. means chiefly that it would be advisable to you to give yourself that kind of loving attention as well as whatever X. means for you in yourself. In other words: worry about yourself more than about others; see and understand what you do more than what you assume other people do. Otherwise you will be accused of a meddling power drive. ~Carl Jung, Letters Vol. II, Page 515.
1 know that the Buddhists would say, as indeed they do: if only people would follow the noble eightfold path of the Dharma (doctrine, law) and had true insight into the Self; or the Christians: if only people had the right faith in the Lord; or the rationalist: if people could only be intelligent and reasonable—then all problems would be manageable and solvable.
The trouble is that none of them manages to solve these problems himself.
Christians often ask why God does not speak to them, as he is believed to have done in former days.
When I hear such ^questions, it always makes me think of the Rabbi who was asked: how it could be that God often showed himself to people in the olden days but that nowadays one no longer saw him.
The | Rabbi replied: “Nor is there anyone nowadays who could stoop so low.”
This answer hits the nail on the head. We are so captivated by and entangled in our subjective consciousness that we have simply forgotten the age-old fact that God speaks chiefly through dreams and visions.
The Buddhist discards the world of unconscious fantasies as “distractions” and useless illusions; the Christian puts his Church and his Bible between himself and his unconscious; and the rationalist intellectual does not yet know that his consciousness is not his total psyche, in spite of the fact that for more than seventy years the unconscious has been a basic scientific concept that is indispensable to any serious student of psychology ~Carl Jung, CW18, Paras 600-601
