It lies in giving. One should give what one can relinquish or the abundance that makes one suffer.
Otherwise one gives according to the principle of the do ut des.
The joy I have intentionally given to the other obliges the other to provide a gift in return.
Your own overflowing joy never obliges the other.
High barriers would still need to be erected between men, less to protect them against mutual burdens than against mutual virtues.
The Christian morality of our time goes on producing mutual enchantment.
But sin resides in that.
If I accept self-forgetting virtue, I make myself the selfish tyrant of the other, and I am thus also forced to surrender myself again in order to make another my master, which always leaves me with a bad impression and is not to the other’s advantage.
Admittedly, this interplay underpins the state, but the soul of the individual becomes damaged since man thus learns always to live from the other instead of from himself.
We can enjoy the fruits of a tree without cutting it down.
If one is capable, one should not surrender oneself, as that induces, indeed even forces, the other to do likewise.
Not that it would be a beautiful or a pleasant thing to live with one’s self, but it serves the redemption of the self.
He who falls away from himself has not abandoned himself.
He has simply freed himself. He has lost out, he suffers it, but at the same time through this loss he has brought about less damage to the other than through self-forgetting virtue.
Because his self-loss entails no obligation to the other, but only something contagious.
This occurrence belongs to the natural events in human life.
Normally a better knowledge of the self follows from it.
Self-forgetting virtue is an unnatural alienation from one’s own essence, which is thus deprived of redemption. 205 Bili It is a sin to deliberately alienate the other from his self by means of** one’s own virtuousness.
This sin rebounds on us.
It is submission enough, amply enough, if we subjugate ourselves to our self.
The work of redemption is always first to be done on ourselves.
This work cannot be done without love for ourselves.
Selfless love is a sin, because it is not true.
We can never abandon self, or else we will abandon our work of redemption.
But we also should not use the other for our own alleged redemption.
The other is no ladder for our feet. ~Carl Jung, The Black Books, Vol. V, Page 236-239