Carl Jung What the other has done to us, we’ll then do ourselves later.
Children’s Dreams (Philemon Foundation Series)
Professor Jung:
Yes, of course.
It then turns out that such an attachment is extremely inexpedient, because he will be insufficiently prepared for facing the exigencies of the outer world.
If such a child is intelligent, he may cope with all the intellectual exigencies in school, but still won’t achieve anything; he does not have the independence of personality.
He is totally undermined by the mother.
In the case of the doctor, the mother demanded that he tell her all about the analysis.
He wrote down every word for the mother, so she always had him in her grip.
Then I said: “This has to stop.”
And of course this was the straw that broke the camel’s back.
Fortunately, she didn’t die.
One gets so furious with such parents!
Participant: Even if she dies, she will still be living.
It’s completely useless.
The mother will still always be there.
Professor Jung:
Yes, dying is completely useless.
As the mother of God, she will always crouch there and brood over the child.
He will never get out. It’s the same, of course, with the fathers.
We must by no means think that it would end with death.
What the other has done to us, we’ll then do ourselves later.
Everything remains in the same place, and one lives exactly as before.
Many a bachelor is sitting in his apartment and nurses the Manes of his parents, and is as constricted and inhibited as ever.~Carl Jung, Children’s Dreams Seminar, Pages 438-440.
Note: Manes = Latin, the spirits of the deceased in ancient Rome.
