Jung, My Mother and I: The Analytical Diaries of Catharine Rush Cabot

He [Jung] went back to say again that if you have the missionary in you which tells everyone what is good for him, you will certainly arouse a thundercloud … and if you preach to yourself only, you won’t be able to accept the socially inferior individual which is to be found within everyone, as he is a nuisance and naturally not  acceptable.

But to bring up that being, the shadow side in oneself, one must quietly look within and bring up one’s inferior man in an acceptable form by being genuinely sorry for yourself.

But if you bring up your inferior man by telling people how awful they are (with a brass band) then he will never be acceptable to you.  ~Katy Cabot, Jung My Mother and I, Page 55