Love has more than one thing in common with religious faith.
It demands unconditional trust and expects absolute surrender.
Just as nobody but the believer who surrenders himself wholly to God can partake of divine grace, so love reveals its highest mysteries and its wonder only to those who are capable of unqualified devotion and loyalty of feeling.
And because this is so difficult, few mortals can boast of such an achievement.
But, precisely because the truest and most devoted love is also the most beautiful, let no man seek to make it easy.
He is a sorry knight who shrinks from the difficulty of loving his lady.
Love is like God: both give themselves only to their bravest knights.
I would offer the same criticism of trial marriages.
The very fact that a man enters into a marriage on trial means that he is making a reservation; he wants to be sure of not burning his fingers, to risk nothing.
But that is the most effective way of forestalling any real experience.
You do not experience the terrors of the Polar ice by perusing a travel-book, or climb the Himalayas in a cinema.
Love is not cheap—let us therefore beware of cheapening it!
All our bad qualities, our egotism, our cowardice, our worldly wisdom, our cupidity—all these would persuade us not to take love seriously.
But love will reward us only when we do.
I must even regard it as a misfortune that nowadays the sexual question is spoken of as something distinct from love.
The two questions should not be separated, for when there is a sexual problem it can be solved only by love.
Any other solution would be a harmful substitute.
Sexuality dished out as sexuality is brutish; but sexuality as an expression of love is hallowed.
Therefore, never ask what a man does, but how he does it.
If he does it from love or in the spirit of love, then he serves a god; and whatever he may do is not ours to judge, for it is ennobled.
I trust that these remarks will have made it clear to you that I pass no sort of moral judgment on sexuality as a natural phenomenon, but prefer to make its moral evaluation dependent on the way it is expressed. ~Carl Jung, CW 10, Page 112
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- Jenna Lilla’s Path of the Soul http://jennalilla.org/
Steve Jung-Hearted Parker’s Jung Currents http://jungcurrents.com/
Frith Luton’s Jungian Dream Analysis and Psychotherapy: http://frithluton.com/articles/
Lance S. Owens The Gnosis Archives http://gnosis.org/welcome.html