[Carl Jung, Emma Jung and Toni Wolff]
1. Carl Jung’s view of “Love” and “Life”
“Not the power of the flesh, but of love, should be broken for the sake of life, since life stands above love.” ~Carl Jung, The Red Book, Page 327.
The beginning of all things is love, but the being of things is life. ~Carl Jung; The Red Book; Page 327.
2. Carl Jung on Marriage:
A marriage is more likely to succeed if the woman follows her own star and remains conscious of her wholeness than if she constantly concerns herself with her husband’s star and his wholeness. ~ Carl Jung, Conversations with C.G. Jung, Page 51
3. Emma Jung on Toni Wolff:
“I shall always be grateful to Toni for doing for my husband what I or anyone else could not have done at a most critical time.” Laurens Van Der Post Jung: The Story of our Time; Page 177.
4. Toni Wolff on Emma Jung:
“You know, sometimes if a man’s wife is big enough to leap over the hurdle of self-pity, she may find that her supposed rival has even helped her marriage! his ‘other woman’ can sometimes help a man live out certain aspects of himself that his wife either can’t fulfill, or else doesn’t especially want to. As a result, some of the wife’s energies are now freed for her own creative interests and development, often with the result that the marriage not only survives, but emerges even stronger than before!” ~C. G. Jung, Emma Jung and Toni Wolff – A Collection of Remembrances, Pages 47-51.
5. Carl Jung’s bas-relief stone monument to Toni Wolff:
6. Carl Jung’s sculptured stone monument to Emma Jung:
Oh outstanding vessel of devotion and obedience!
To the ancestral spirits of my most beloved and faithful wife Emma Maria.
She completed her life and after her death she was lamented.
She went over to the secret of eternity in the year 1955.
Her age was 73.
7. On Carl Jung, Emma Jung and Toni Wolff:
Fowler McCormick, a businessman and philanthropist from Chicago, was a close friend of the Jung family and he often told me in later years how deeply the Jung’s and Toni were respected in their own circle for keeping their personal problems to themselves.
Even the Jung children did not know of their father’s close relation to Toni until long after it began, even though they often saw her in their home.
He felt, and I would corroborate this impression, that as nearly as possible in our monogamous society, Jung found two wives in these women and so provides no model for the rest of us to follow.
It depended on a form of consciousness that totally transcended the ordinary worldly model-that of an important man who maintains a marriage and indulges himself on the side with a mistress. ~Memory of Toni Wolff by Joseph L. Henderson ~ C. G. Jung, Emma Jung and Toni Wolff – A Collection of Remembrances Pages 32-33.
8. Barbara Hannah on Toni Wolff:
It might be said of her [Toni Wolff] that she was “Virgin” as defined for us by Esther Harding, meaning simply an unmarried woman who, since she belonged to no man, belonged to herself and to God in a special way.~ Sallie Nichols, ~C. G. Jung, Emma Jung and Toni Wolff – A Collection of Remembrances, Pages 47-51.
9. Carl Jung, Toni Wolff, The Red Book:
He recalled that Toni Wolff had become drawn into the process in which he was involved, and was experiencing a similar stream of images. Jung found that he could discuss his experiences with her, but she was disorientated and in the same mess.
Likewise, his wife was unable to help him in this regard. Consequently; he noted, “that I was able to endure at all was a case of brute force.” [Red Book; Page 204; Footnote 118; MP; Page 174 and Footnote 119; Memories; Page 201]
10. [Carl Jung on the death of Toni Wolff, the effect on his health and premonitory dreams]
To James Kirsch:
“Dear Colleague, Bollingen, 28 May 1953
At last I can find time to thank you personally for the kind letter you wrote to me on the occasion of the death of Toni Wolff.
On the day of her death, even before I had received the news, I suffered a relapse and had a bad attack of my tachycardia.
This has now subsided but it has left an arrhythmia which hampers my physical capacities very much.
I have ventured out to Bollingen over Whitsun and hope to recuperate a little more here.
Toni Wolff’s death was so sudden, so totally unexpected, that one could hardly realize her passing.
I had seen her only two days before.
Both of us completely unsuspecting.
The Hades dreams I had in the middle of February I related entirely to myself because nothing pointed to Toni Wolff.
Nobody who was close to her had any warning dreams, and in England, Germany and Zurich only people who knew her superficially.
At the beginning of my illness in Oct. 52 I dreamt of a huge black elephant that uprooted a tree. (meanwhile I have written a long essay on “The Philosophical Tree.”)
The uprooting of a tree can signify death.
Since then I have dreamt several times of elephants which I always had to treat warily.
Apparently they were engaged in road-building.” ~Carl Jung, Letters Volume II, Pages 117-118 [Excerpt.]
11. [ Carl Jung reflected further on this issue after the death of Toni Wolff in 1953 and Emma Jung in 1955.]
In the published version of Memories, Jung discussed the issue of reincarnation, and noted that:
“Until a few years ago I could not discover anything convincing in this respect, although I kept a sharp lookout for signs. Recently, however, I observed in myself a series of dreams which would seem to describe the process of reincarnation in a deceased person of my acquaintance.”
As ever, Jung’s discussions in the protocols were more candid: the person in question turns out to be Toni Wolff.
On September 23, 1957, Jung narrated a dream he had had of her to Aniela Jaffe.
In the dream, she had returned to life, as if there had been a type of misunderstanding that she had died, and she had returned to live a further part of her life. Aniela Jaffe asked Jung if he thought this could indicate a possible.. . who are the dead, and what does it mean to answer them?
Rebirth. Jung replied that with his wife he had a sense of a great detachment or distance. By contrast, he felt that Toni Wolff was close. Jaffé then asked him whether something that one has not completed in one life has to be continued in a next life.
Jung replied that his wife reached something that Toni Wolff didn’t reach and that rebirth would constitute a terrible increase of actuality for her.
He had the impression that Toni Wolff was nearer the earth, that she could manifest herself better to him, whilst his wife was on another level where he couldn’t reach her.
He concluded that Toni Wolff was in the neighborhood, that she was nearer the sphere of three dimensional existence, and hence had the chance to come into existence again,
He had the impression that for her a continuation of three dimensional existence would not be meaningless.
He felt that higher insight hindered the wish for re-embodiment. ~ ” Sonu Shamdasani. “‘The Boundless Expanse”: Jung’s Reflections on Death and Life” Quadrant 38.1 (2008).
12. Laurens van der Post on Carl Jung, Emma Jung and Toni Wolff
What she [Toni Wolff] meant to Jung on that perilous journey van perhaps be summed best in something he told me towards the end of his life.
He was carving in stone, which had become his favorite visual medium, some sort of memorial of what Emma Jung and Toni Wolff had brought to his life.
One the stone for his wife he was cutting the Chinese symbols meaning: “She was the foundation of my house.”
One the stone intended for Toni Wolff, who had died first, he wanted to inscribe another Chinese character to the effect that she was the fragrance of the house.
This imagery of meaning of which this ancient Chinese ideogram is a direct visual expression is clearly saying thereby that she was the “scent,” which represents the faculty of intuition I have mentioned.
And finally and most conclusive of all, there is the testimony of Emma Jung herself, great spirit that she was.
Just before she died she told a friend of mine close to both herself and her husband, “I shall always be grateful to Toni for doing for my husband what I or anyone else could not have done for him at a most critical time. ~Laurens van der post, Jung and the Story of our Time, Page 177.